Last time, I wrote about a quick fix to your problems, and I suggested that the quickest fix is to develop a relationship to a Higher Power of your understanding.  Today I’d like to further expand upon that idea and explore a related quandary that I have pondered for years.

Years ago, I watched an EFT training DVD that made quite an impression on me.  This man explained that we have “parts” within us, such as an inner teenager, an inner child, an inner adult, and that we need to ask “permission” from the part of us that is responsible for holding us back to heal and integrate this part.  And until we get this permission, certain aspects of our lives may continue to be a struggle.

While I agree that this approach can and does work, and it’s a quicker fix than trying to willpower through your problems, I’d like to suggest that there’s even a better way.  Do we really need to ask permission from our ego to make a change in our lives?  The ego would like us to think so.  The ego wants our ever-constant attention and tries to distract us from what is really important in life, our inner well-being.

Why not just relinquish the ego altogether?  How does the ego serve you?  The acronym for EGO is Easing God Out.  That says it all right there.  When you experience fear and doubt, it’s coming from the ego’s interpretation of your experience.  The conscious mind, when being run by the ego, tends to be very arrogant, because it’s being driven by fear.

Think about why it’s so hard to change certain habits and beliefs.  Beliefs reside in the subconscious mind, which is like a computer that non-discriminately accepts information.  You constantly feed the subconscious mind with suffering thoughts that create suffering emotions which create unhealthy behaviors and habits.

It’s like one big suffering loop.  How do you get out of the loop?  You need to make a decision to release the need to suffer.  This may sound like common sense, but it’s not.  Suffering is addictive, more so than heroine or alcohol or tobacco, which are merely symptoms of the need to suffer at a core level.

This need to suffer is also demonstrated by the loud obnoxious voice inside of your head which constantly reminds you that you aren’t enough.  You have to learn to drown out the voice, to squash it, and this can be done by reminding yourself of your decision.  “Today I’ve decided that I am enough, and I have plenty of time and money, and I am perfectly loved and loving and lovable.”

Or it might go like, “Today I’ve decided my health is more important than immediately gratifying myself with just any food or drink.”  Or “Today I’ve decided that having a healthy relationship is more important than being right with my spouse.”  You get the picture.

This is practicing the relinquishing of the ego, in a sense, not paying any attention to the whimpering, the complaining, the “poor-me” parts of you.  They are immature, and it doesn’t look like they will be maturing any time soon.  So why even bargain with the ego parts?  Bypass them altogether and ask your Higher Power to help you “decide” the best course of action that will lead to your highest good.

Be very specific in your prayer. Ask Higher Power to increase your faith and your willingness and ability to follow your decision; for example, “Dear God, I need your help today to help me let go of the ego.  Help me enforce my decision to eat only healthy foods.  I cannot do this alone.”  Fill in the blank with whatever your struggle is.

The shortest distance between two points is a straight line.  Similarly, the shortest distance between your goal and your result is your Higher Power’s aid.  Use it.

If you need my help in figuring this out, I’m glad to serve.  Call me at 314-422-6520.

Blessings to you always,
Angie Monko

Do you want a quick fix?  To your food problem?  To your weight problem?  To your money problem?  To your relationship problem?  I find people are looking for this magic elixir that will propel them into a perpetual state of happiness and bliss.

If you really want a quick fix, I have found the fastest way to peace and joy and fulfillment is to come to know your Source, to understand where 99.99% of your power supply is generated and then tap into it.  If you, like many, aren’t comfortable with the notion of a Source or Higher Power, it’s probably because your definition of this Infinite Intelligence is skewed by your own faulty perception.

You are projecting your anger and sadness and fear onto a Higher Power/God that most likely resembles your mom or dad.  We all do this subconsciously.  We think that God is like our parents, and since our parents had their share of flaws and defects, we don’t wish to rely on a Higher Power like that.  I don’t blame you.  I wouldn’t either.  Who wants to rely on a vengeful, angry God?

If you fall into the cynical category and are struggling with your relationship to a Higher Power, then you might consider a Higher Power relationship makeover.  Redefine how you think about God, how your relate, how you communicate.

Even if you claim to be an atheist, can you think of anything that has greater power than your ego? Does anything exist in the Universe that is more powerful than your ego self?  What about nature or energy that is never created or destroyed?  It could be a group that you belong to that you highly respect.  It doesn’t have to be the conventional Higher Power.

Now if you are very resistant to this entire article, that’s okay.  It simply means you aren’t ready for a quick fix.  You would prefer to do it your way.  I encourage you to take an honest appraisal of how “your way” is working.  If you aren’t happy and if your way feels like hard work and you just aren’t getting the results you want, why continue to do things the same way?

There is a better, quicker way.  As a coach, I give my clients all sorts of techniques and tips (which work quite well, I must admit), and they will make progress if they do as instructed.  But it’s my client who is willing to surrender his/her control over life to a Higher Power who makes the quickest progress.  Once they surrender, they find they have much more control over their own mind and heart.

Speaking of control, I’d like to make a certain distinction.  It is not good to try to control everything and everyone around you.  This is a waste of energy and time and effort.  However, the effort that will give you the most return on your time investment is to learn how to control your own mind and emotions and how you respond to life.

If you need help in renovating your relationship to a Higher Power because you want to begin getting fast results to your problems, call or email me.  It will be the best call you ever made.  Take care!

Angie Monko
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Have you ever noticed that you can have a lot of knowledge about something, but until you transfer this intellectual understanding into a heart understanding, you won’t practice what you know.  You won’t “walk your talk.”

What do you do when you get in a rut?  Pretend you get your car stuck in a literal rut.  You try to get out of it by gunning it, right?  You dig yourself deeper in.  Then you try even harder to get out of it with no result. So you gun it harder and dig deeper in.  Isn’t this the definition of insanity, but yet we operate our lives like this all of the time.

Just because you keep repeating some of the same insane behaviors doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or that you’re bad to the core.  It just means you that you haven’t learned how to do something different.  You haven’t acquired the tools which will give you the skills to resourcefully deal with a situation.

If you will put this same energy that you use to dig yourself deeper into ruts and try to manage your life with willpower into digging deeper within yourself for the answers, I think you will be surprised.  You need to be able to ask for help, help from others and your Higher Self.

Nothing is going to change until you make the decision that enough is enough.  Just stop the blame game; stop blaming yourself for being inadequate because that’s what you do when you blame anyone or anything else.  In essence, you are saying, “You distract me, and I let you distract me so that I will not go within and deal with the real problem at hand.   If I did dig deep into myself, I might discover that I’m bad, flawed some how.”

Stop believing that you aren’t enough to figure this out.  YOU ARE!

Over the next few months, my daughter, Maddie, who just turned sixteen three days ago, is going to be sharing with you her journey of forgiveness with her Dad.  Today’s main article is entitled “The Art of Forgiveness” and is written by Maddie in its entirety, with only minor revisions by me for grammar.  The content is all her.

I think it’s important to share with you Maddie’s “Relationship Reformation and Renovation Project.”  It will give you a real-life story in which you can actually see how Maddie is applying universal principles and laws.  It will also demonstrate how some of these laws are simply knowledge in her mind right now and how they’ll be transferring to her heart over time.  And once transferred there, you’ll see how she reforms herself first and then is able to renovate her relationships with others.  Stay tuned!

Blessings,
Angie Monko

Do you ever wonder why it seems so many people don’t feel good enough? Well, we are continually bombarded daily with about 3000 advertisements that tell us we need something in order to be happy.  If we are in need, then we must not be complete, but lacking something.

This is the way most of us view the world.  In fact, I was in a workshop just recently on April 1, put on by Barry Dennis, a spiritual man who’s worked with Wayne Dyer and many great teachers.  Barry explained how we see the world through the eyes of a specific paradigm.

A paradigm is a set of assumptions, concepts, values and practices that constitute a way of viewing reality for the community that shares them.  Barry calls this particular paradigm that we see the world through as chotchky.  What in the world is this?

It’s an alternate spelling of the Yiddish word, Tchotchke, and it is hard to define.  Basically it’s a mindset that feels like we’re looking through cloudy sunglasses.  It’s a flawed paradigm that says we’re not enough.  We need more, faster, and we need it now.  It is anything in excess.

Our soul is crying out for more space, freedom, quietness, true connection with others, and to live by the values of peace, harmony, joy, love.  Barry goes on to demonstrate how we are constantly searching for our answers outside of us, a better job, a bigger house, more possessions, more money, a better partner.

When is enough enough to fill your thirsty desire for more?  If you keep living in accordance with the demands of the ego (another way to define chotchky), enough will never be enough.  However, if you will just STOP the constant barrage of information and slow down and meditate, take a walk, disconnect from technology, go out into nature, or whatever makes you calm and joyful, you can reconnect to your Soul.

So what is a more accurate paradigm to live by, a TRUE paradigm and not the illusion of the paradigm of chotchky?  Barry calls it Liberotchky (ha ha). Basically, what he is saying is that you can liberate your soul by finding the Prize inside.  This means that all of the answers you’re seeking are within you, and that is why when you get quiet, you will discover them.

Barry’s book, The Chotchky Challenge, is to be released 4/30/12, and I was very fortunate to get one early.  The subtitle is “Clear the Clutter from Your Home, Heart and Mind…and Discover the True Treasure of Your Soul.”  I encourage you to pick one up. Barry is a real gem, and both of my daughters attended the workshop with me.

We were all impressed, and it got us to thinking how very fortunate and blessed we are to have and be who we are.  One of Barry’s key messages, one that I’ve been encouraging for years, is that you must fall head over hills in love with yourself.  This is not arrogant or selfish; it is simply acknowledging what an amazing Creation you are!

If you’d like help remembering Who You Really ARE, call me and let’s set aside 1/2 hour to to talk.  Click on the link below to schedule.  I’m only taking 5 people in April, and I’m booked through the week of 4/16/12.  You can find something after that.

https://my.timedriver.com/XJGXK

Much Love & Blessings,
Angie Monko

What are your values?  I really thought about this the other day.  I WANT my values to be FAITH/BELIEF, Personal Responsibility, and the Mindset of Overcoming from Victim to Victor.

However, what I realized is that I had been living by the Values of Hard Work and Ambition.  This meant that I felt like I was flawed when I didn’t accomplish enough or meet my goals quickly enough.

The only way I know how to live by the Values I want to live by is to slow down.  The only way I’m going to become the person I want to BE personally and professionally is to truly live by the Values of Faith and Personal Responsibility.  This means I must learn the skill of surrendering.

To surrender, I take some actions daily.  I pray and ask God to help me see myself and others the way God sees me and others.  I pray for more faith and the willingness and ability to follow this Higher Good for myself.  I meditate for an hour, and I LOVE it!  I’m not suggesting that you have to do this, but start with something, maybe 1 minute (which is what I did) and then build your way up.  I now do Holosync daily, and it’s changing me from the inside out.

The other skill I must learn is to take responsibility for everything I can control.  I used to think it was sufficient to take responsibility for things in my physical environment, but that isn’t enough.  I also have to take responsibility for my emotions and thoughts.  This can be tough because it feels like there is no place to hide.

The only way is through with our emotions and thoughts.  We can’t hide them, repress them, avoid them, go around them.  Meet them head on, and you’ll find freedom.

I’m wishing you a Happy Spring.  Go out and enjoy the beautiful weather!  My husband, Steve, and I are about to leave for Hollister, MO to Paradise Point for our spring getaway, time to re-connect, refresh and renew our relationship.  Is it selfish?  Some say it is.  I say it’s absolutely necessary for the happy longevity of our marriage.

Blessings,
Angie

I always think it’s a good idea to detox your body at least once per year, if not quarterly.  Our bodies are full of toxins from the environment, the food we eat, the beverages we drink, and perhaps, most important, but rarely considered, from the thoughts we think.

Yes, our negative thoughts create emotional suffering, which in turn creates dis-ease in your body, emotional toxins.  I’ve been working with a woman, Malina Milosevich, who has been doing lymph massages on me in order to cleanse the colon, the liver, the sinuses, etc, an overall detox.  She just did part one of the liver yesterday (3/21).

Our organs store a lot of toxins and memories and emotions.  And Malina’s told me that there can be all sorts of reactions to these lymphatic massages, both physical and emotional.  This makes a lot of sense to me.  I believe in the past that I’ve discounted the importance of nutrition to the body because I felt if we ate food without guilt it wouldn’t impact us.  This may be true if you have an highly enlightened consciousness, like that of Jesus, but I’m not there yet.

Malina has re-educated and reminded me of the importance of eating gluten-free, even if you don’t have a gluten allergy.  It’s called GLU-ten for a reason.  It’s like glue when it hits your intestines, and it’s hard to digest.  And if I’m going to expend the effort on cleansing my body, I might as well try to keep my organs somewhat clean, without being a zealot.

I just feel like I want to sleep after the liver lymph massage.  I must say I don’t like the feeling of low energy.  I guess it’s God’s way of saying slow down.  I also know the tiredness will pass.  So instead of sitting at the computer writing this to you, I’m curled up in a blanket on the couch, in a more nurturing environment.  I am honoring my feelings and need for comfort.

In a way, when I respect my need for silence, or creativity, or nature, or a good movie, being with a friend, slowing down and not pushing myself so hard, I release toxins.  Remember, our bodies are made of energy, and our emotions are energy in motion.  Everything is connected.  it is so important to pay attention to your feelings, simply as a guide (see more on the introductory article).

So here’s to feeding your body with quality, gluten-free food, feeding your mind with the highest vibratory emotions of love, compassion, joy and peace, and feeding your soul with  thoughts of what a unique, genius Creator you are.

You are body, mind and soul!  You are a package deal, the real deal!

Call me to schedule a complementary 1/2 hour “Renovate Your Most Important Relationship” coaching session.  Let me help you renovate your draining relationships into dynamic ones!

God Bless,

Angie Monko